When faced with a BIG LIFE CHOICE where on one side life is as we know it and the other side is a TRANSFORMATIVE EXPERIENCE; we are not able to picture what life would be like on that other side. Our minds are inclined to misinform us. When you find […]
We EXPECT OUR FRIENDS to make us feel valued and loved and also to assist us to discover and inspire our best self. In essence FRIENDS should become instrumental in the architecture of our own character. To make us feel valued and loved our FRIEND must convey appreciation for the […]
If you would be AN EXCEPTIONAL PERSON, be mindful that it is not an ATTAINMENT but a MAINTAINMENT. Just as one does not remain a living being by taking a breath, only through continued breathing does one live. The EXCEPTIONAL PERSON continues as such by continued DELIBERATE THOUGHT OF THEIR […]
There are eight pillars of wisdom; EMOTIONAL REGULATION (the art of coping), KNOWING WHAT IS IMPORTANT (establishing value and making judgment), MORAL REASONING (right from wrong), COMPASSION (kindness and empathy), HUMILITY (the gift of perspective), ALTRUISM (fairness and punishment), PATIENCE (delayed gratification) and DEALING WITH UNCERTAINTY (change). WISDOM is […]
As we grow older, we gain more knowledge. That’s mostly an advantage. But it can also lead us to ignore evidence that contradicts what we already know. That’s TUNNEL VISION or a fixed mindset. With knowledge, we can become too obstinate in our ways to change. EXPLOITATION is to […]
Our lives depend profoundly on RHYTHM. From the constant beating of the heart and pulsing nerve activity in the brain, to our sleep and hormone cycles, RHYTHMIC patterns are present in all we do. A. Gazzaley, neuroscience professor at University of California, says brain activity fluctuates, it oscillates in RHYTHMIC […]
Tich Nhat Hanh said from his interpretation of Buddhist, The Heart Sutra; When we want to UNDERSTAND something, we cannot just stand outside and observe it. We have to enter deeply into it and BECOME ONE WITH IT in order to really UNDERSTAND. If we want to UNDERSTAND a person, […]
Just DREAM IT, it is within you. Greatness, success, expertise is inside us all. It is up to a teacher, mentor or colleague to assist you in attaining this skill that is within you. That DREAM can be a reality if we prepare for the moment. The preparation is […]
To reword Pema Chodron’s thoughts on WHEN THINGS FALL APART, the ancient teachings of Tibetan Buddhism offers a gentle and intelligent guidance that we stand to gain during those times when all seems to be lost. Chodron reframes those moments of acute despair as opportunities for befriending life by befriending […]
Psychologists theorize that the GOOGLE EFFECT causes our memories to weaken due merely to the fact that we know we can look something up, which means we do not keep pounding away at the neural pathways that strengthen memory. The natural digital user might say, so what? I can […]
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