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New York University psychology professor Niobe Way said; “All research emphasizes that humans are actually not driven by competition and autonomy. What we’re driven by is the desire to be in connected communities.”


It is thought that to reveal your emotions it is a sign of weakness.  But this restricts your being vulnerable and prevents your full human potential, says a psychology professor from Indiana University. He tells a story of a soldier who confided that what most compelled him to fight was not self-preservation or hatred or patriotism, but LOVE for his comrades.


Tom Herman, Houston University football coach, said; “I grew up kissing my uncles. Men that LOVE men in a fatherly way, HUGS and kisses in our society for some reason have been deemed soft. There needs to be more HUGS and kisses by men that LOVE men in that kind of way. A big two-handed HUG and a kiss on the cheek and telling them you love them as they get ready to do battle for you goes a long way.” Tom says to them, “YOU HAVE MY HEART IN YOUR HANDS.” Herman reasons that; “how do you motivate a human being to do things, there are two ways; through LOVE or fear. And to me LOVE wins every time.” Tom HUGS and kisses his players on the cheek before every game.


Herman’s ritual has earned him praise from psychologists for its frank articulation of the emotion that inevitably develops on teams and glues together the best of them.


A team, or organization should always be run as a family. So everyone is accountable, everyone puts in the same effort, everyone feels connected, everyone has everyone’s back and everyone experiences no fear. Above all everyone should definitely feel and know that, “YOU HAVE MY HEART IN YOUR HANDS.”

Categories: Article Review Philosophical Perspective

ron winnegrad

Ron Winnegrad has been a Perfumer and teacher for 46 years. As a perfumer, Ron has been able to express the world he sees through a rainbow of olfactive and emotive visions. As a teacher, Ron has helped others to see fragrance through his own multi sensorial lens.

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