Many of us make mistakes and have failures and therefore finding ourselves lost and confused. This can have us fall into the depths of SHAME and leave us feeling unworthy. SHAME is one of the most difficult emotions, because when we experience it we feel undeserving of love, care and tenderness. When people reach out to ask what is wrong, we want to hide ourselves away. Unable to face the people we love and even ourselves. 

So we must resolve SHAME with ourselves before we can resolve the feeling of SHAME with others. It is very challenging to resolve the difficulties within ourselves. It is not easy to admit those difficulties. It is deeply buried within. Like all emotions, SHAME CAN BE A TEACHER. We must shift our relation to SHAME. 

We must work towards withholding the judgement, embarrassment and harshness with more acceptance, warmth and gentleness. As we listen to our SHAME attentively and respond to it with kindness. We then can hold it and soften it. So the next time we feel SHAME let it teach us to love ourselves with less judgement. As Max Urhman said; “YOU HAVE A RIGHT TO BE HERE. BE GENTLE WITH YOURSELF, YOU ARE A CHILD OF THE UNIVERSE, NO LESS THAN THE TREES AND THE STARS.”

TAKE CARE, STAY WELL, STAY HEALTHY. HAVE FAITH. BEAR THE LOVE. THANK YOU.

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ron winnegrad

Ron Winnegrad has been a Perfumer and teacher for 46 years. As a perfumer, Ron has been able to express the world he sees through a rainbow of olfactive and emotive visions. As a teacher, Ron has helped others to see fragrance through his own multi sensorial lens.