People tend to externalize when they encounter problems. They tend to find fault with others when things go wrong. It is easier to insulate your thoughts and accuse others for the failings that occur. Most people try to protect their self image, their egos. It has been found that when we choose to HOLD OURSELVES ACCOUNTABLE, we are more likely to be happier and successful in work and in our relationships.
It is easy to make excuses, play the victim, feel a sense of entitlement. HOLDING YOURSELF ACCOUNTABLE for your actions and reactions lets you avoid anger, cynicism, envy and frustration and instead focus on positive emotions and healthy living. Our daily energy is finite, we should not waste it on negative thinking.
Working out of the ego-mind, one is focused on how one is doing rather than on what one is doing. The ego mindset generates insecurity and leads into not being able to HOLD YOURSELF ACCOUNTABLE. This takes one out of the present moment. As Castaneda said; “the basic difference between an ordinary man and a warrior is that a warrior takes everything as a challenge while an ordinary man takes everything as a blessing or a curse. It is one’s choice.”
Research has shown that when employees feel ACCOUNTABLE for their work, they are more likely to contribute to achieving organizational goals. Believing that others will change or forcing them to do so will drive them apart. The fastest way to enhance relationships is to remove the blame and HOLD YOURSELF ACCOUNTABLE.
Ron Winnegrad has been a Perfumer and teacher for 46 years. As a perfumer, Ron has been able to express the world he sees through a rainbow of olfactive and emotive visions. As a teacher, Ron has helped others to see fragrance through his own multi sensorial lens.